1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:05,000 This programme contains strong language, scenes of sexual nature and nudity 2 00:00:05,040 --> 00:00:07,280 I'm nervous! I'm going to take it one step at a time. 3 00:00:07,320 --> 00:00:09,760 In a world saturated with sex... 4 00:00:09,800 --> 00:00:11,960 I'm absolutely petrified. 5 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:15,840 ...more young adults than ever are living without it. 6 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:19,480 The thought of having sex with someone... Scares me. 7 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:21,320 It gives me the ick. I'm missing out. 8 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:23,400 Terrified. Nerve-racking. Gut-wrenching. 9 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:28,000 Embarrassing. All I think about is what I'm going to get wrong. 10 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:30,560 Can you point to the outer labia? 11 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:31,640 Nope. 12 00:00:33,480 --> 00:00:35,120 Now... Oh, my God! 13 00:00:35,160 --> 00:00:39,520 ...12 virgins are getting a crash course in intimacy. 14 00:00:39,560 --> 00:00:42,160 Social media, porn, dating apps. 15 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:45,640 There are so many negative messages, and we can help them blossom. 16 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:50,440 Use it by stimulating the area. They'll be guided by experts... 17 00:00:50,480 --> 00:00:52,840 You see yourself as...? Repulsive. 18 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:56,440 ...to explore all aspects of intimacy, 19 00:00:56,480 --> 00:01:00,040 and maybe even have sex with a trained therapist. 20 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:01,760 Do you want to put a condom on? 21 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:04,160 Or each other. 22 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:06,720 Get a room, guys! 23 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:08,040 THEY ALL SQUEAL 24 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:10,440 I really do need to change my life. 25 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:11,760 Who will be ready... 26 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:13,560 Desperate times call for desperate measures. 27 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:16,040 ...to go all the way? 28 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:17,920 MAN MOANS 29 00:01:23,680 --> 00:01:26,560 {\an8}We're going to find out what your core desires are. 30 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:28,600 {\an8}The last few days on Virgin Island... 31 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:30,640 The most important thing is to feel wanted. 32 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:33,320 ...saw the group tune in to their turn-ons. 33 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:36,840 Turn-ons, especially from the more sexual aspects, 34 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:39,680 should not be shared in front of everybody. 35 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:41,520 After initial reservations... 36 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:43,200 And then you want to line up 37 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:46,440 so that your dick is connected to my pussy. 38 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:48,560 Bertie threw himself in. 39 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:52,600 If I am going on this island to be the same old person, 40 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:54,240 what am I doing here? 41 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:57,240 Alex took a big step forward... 42 00:01:57,280 --> 00:01:59,080 Did you feel me fully aroused? 43 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:02,440 Yeah. ..in overcoming performance anxiety. 44 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:03,520 I felt really good. 45 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,760 And some of the group took their first tentative steps... 46 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:11,440 We're doing touch work completely led by you. 47 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:13,480 ...into surrogate partner therapy. 48 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:15,560 How did that feel? It felt good. It felt really nice. 49 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:16,640 OK, great. 50 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:20,160 I feel so connected to you. 51 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:23,760 However, the next phase will test the group... 52 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:25,120 Oh, my God, I got goose bumps. 53 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:26,760 ...in a whole new way. 54 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:30,040 Dating is such an essential skill, 55 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:34,800 because that's the first step in order to go and have sex. 56 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:37,560 Building trust and confidence are the most important thing 57 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:40,560 when it comes to dating, and that's what we're here for. 58 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:55,680 It's another day on Virgin Island... 59 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:57,280 Oh! You've got mail. 60 00:02:57,320 --> 00:03:01,360 ...and the start of a new two-day phase of the course. 61 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:03,480 The next phase is dating. 62 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:06,200 Nothing like a date on a remote island. 63 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:09,840 This is something 64 00:03:09,880 --> 00:03:15,240 that I have absolutely no experience in whatsoever. 65 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:16,480 Oh! 66 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:19,320 I'm going to struggle with this one, I think. 67 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,920 Morning! Morning. Morning, Alex. Have you done much dating? 68 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:28,240 No, I wouldn't say much, no. How are you guys feeling about it? 69 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:29,560 It's the worst thing for me. 70 00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:32,320 I just don't know how to make conversation. 71 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:35,080 Dating just isn't my sort of thing at all. 72 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:36,560 It's not worked for me in the past 73 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:38,680 and it's probably one of the reasons I'm still, 74 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:41,400 you know, solo. Have you done a date before? 75 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:44,760 No. Not ever. Never in my life. Yeah. 76 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:49,160 The dating phase - I don't think "positively scared" makes sense, 77 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:50,560 but it's how I feel. 78 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:52,800 Or nervously excited. 79 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:57,160 In an increasingly difficult dating landscape... 80 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:02,320 ...one in five adults in the UK have given up altogether. 81 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:06,280 Dating is terrifying for this generation, 82 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:08,960 not knowing how to negotiate consent. 83 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:10,240 Good morning! 84 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:13,800 So it is very important for the group to feel empowered 85 00:04:13,840 --> 00:04:15,920 so they feel confident to date. 86 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:22,400 We all know that dating is hard. Apps are overwhelming. 87 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:24,880 People ghost each other. 88 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:28,240 But we're here to make dating fun. 89 00:04:28,280 --> 00:04:30,880 You don't want to look at the first date as, "This is pressure 90 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:33,080 "and I need to try to get in a relationship with this person." 91 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:34,440 You want to be flirtatious 92 00:04:34,480 --> 00:04:37,440 and playful and share sexual energy and chemistry, 93 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:39,440 and we're going to teach you how to do that. 94 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:43,520 I never got past the first date stage. 95 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:45,640 They've either ghosted me 96 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:48,920 or they've decided we're better off as friends. 97 00:04:48,960 --> 00:04:50,840 I wouldn't want to approach a woman. 98 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:54,400 There's the issue of coming off as creepy, coming off as weird. 99 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:56,800 I could say something unintentionally wrong 100 00:04:56,840 --> 00:04:59,080 and do something unintentionally wrong. 101 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:03,720 And before you know it, you have completely ruined everything. 102 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:06,520 To avoid misreading the signals on a date, 103 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:09,320 Celeste and Danielle want to help the group 104 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:11,560 escalate intimacy, with consent. 105 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:14,280 If you're like, "Can I do this? Can I do this? Can I do this?," 106 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:15,760 it completely breaks the mood. 107 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:19,880 So we want to teach you how to escalate in a very sexy way. 108 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:23,080 So I need one brave volunteer. 109 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:29,240 OK. 110 00:05:29,280 --> 00:05:31,160 CELESTE LAUGHS 111 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:32,920 Consent is essential 112 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:36,520 in creating trust and escalating intimacy. 113 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:37,920 Hi. 114 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:39,240 THEY LAUGH 115 00:05:39,280 --> 00:05:42,000 And we want to make consent sexy 116 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:45,600 because in order to enjoy the beginning stages of intimacy, 117 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:49,120 you need to take away the fear of what happens next. 118 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:54,520 Firstly, you're so gorgeous. Thank you. 119 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:56,840 I really want to be closer to you. Mm-hmm. 120 00:05:56,880 --> 00:05:57,920 Yeah? 121 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:03,200 OK if I touch you? Mm-hmm. 122 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:06,480 Mmm. 123 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:11,600 Do you feel me shaking? Yeah. Yeah, you make me nervous. 124 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:13,840 THEY LAUGH 125 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:21,440 I'm going to take your leg and put it around my waist. 126 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:23,320 Like here, is that OK? Yeah. 127 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:34,440 How are you feeling? 128 00:06:34,480 --> 00:06:35,680 Good. 129 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:38,120 My heart's beating a bit fast. Yeah, me too. 130 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:39,640 CELESTE LAUGHS 131 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:43,920 Thank you so much. Thank you. 132 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:51,480 Sorry, this is only phase three? 133 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:53,960 Like, what the hell? 134 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:56,560 This is what happens when you make dating sexy. 135 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:58,720 If you go on a first date with someone 136 00:06:58,760 --> 00:07:01,000 and you don't know how to do this, 137 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:04,000 then you won't be confident when things will escalate. 138 00:07:05,280 --> 00:07:08,680 So, anyone want to be the escalator with Danielle? 139 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:09,840 Yeah. Yeah? 140 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:13,920 Eager to learn is 30-year-old Will. 141 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:16,920 I have no dating history. 142 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:21,040 I legitimately can't remember the last time I shared a kiss. 143 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:22,960 I'm desperate to change my life, 144 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:26,440 but still being a virgin, it's almost impossible. 145 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:30,800 I definitely use humour to cover the sorrow and frustration. 146 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:33,120 It's a large part of my personality. 147 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:35,920 I really love it when you're checking me out. 148 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:37,520 Eye contact is so sexy. 149 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:42,040 I can't help but look at the most beautiful person in the room. 150 00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:45,920 Aw! OK, now I want you to say it... 151 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:47,960 Yeah? ..like you really... 152 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:51,120 Like you're not shy about it, like it's OK. 153 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:54,160 I'm not shy about it. Feel it in your cock. 154 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:55,920 I'm so glad you said cock and not penis. 155 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:56,960 LAUGHTER 156 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:04,040 Making it sound sexy is owning that we are here turned on together. 157 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:08,240 OK. So you running your erotic energy is sexy. 158 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:10,280 It's difficult to navigate sometimes. 159 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:13,520 Yeah. Otherwise, I feel like, "Oh, you don't find me attractive." 160 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:15,480 You say it, but I don't feel it. 161 00:08:19,080 --> 00:08:20,680 Following Will's attempt... 162 00:08:21,920 --> 00:08:24,280 Is it OK if I touch your hair like this? 163 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:25,520 Mmm. 164 00:08:25,560 --> 00:08:28,200 ...a more confident Bertie gives it a go. 165 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:32,160 Your hand feels very soft. Thank you. Mmm. 166 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:34,200 Others try it out with each other. 167 00:08:34,240 --> 00:08:39,920 The sun's in my eyes. Is it in yours? No. I can only see your eyes. 168 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:42,240 Cute. 169 00:08:42,280 --> 00:08:43,920 SHE GIGGLES 170 00:08:43,960 --> 00:08:46,040 And some don't hold back. 171 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:48,400 Your eyes are so green. 172 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:54,400 Would you be comfortable sitting on my lap? 173 00:08:54,440 --> 00:08:56,040 I can try it. 174 00:08:58,360 --> 00:08:59,880 I feel so connected to you. 175 00:08:59,920 --> 00:09:01,600 Mmm. 176 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:04,320 Feeling you on me and feeling you touch me feels amazing. 177 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:12,560 Can I grab your butt? Yeah, you can. 178 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:13,880 SHE GIGGLES 179 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:15,560 How's that? Great. 180 00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:24,920 How did everyone have the confidence to do it? 181 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:26,640 I just felt really awkward watching. 182 00:09:26,680 --> 00:09:29,320 Genuinely, guys, it felt, like, really good. 183 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:37,920 This is the one I was most nervous about, and I know why. 184 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:39,720 I came out of that workshop 185 00:09:39,760 --> 00:09:41,960 feeling a bit like I was a bit of a creep 186 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:43,960 and peeking through the blinds. 187 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,680 I'm not used to seeing, like, intimacy like live. 188 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:49,200 As soon as I sat down and looked into your eyes, I was like, "OK." 189 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:52,160 Yeah! You guys looked really good doing that. Thank you. 190 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:55,080 It's like an indescribable feeling of, like, 191 00:09:55,120 --> 00:09:57,800 relief that I was able to just lose myself in the moment 192 00:09:57,840 --> 00:09:59,720 and not worry about the performance. 193 00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:03,520 So it's astounding, the progress that I'm making. 194 00:10:03,560 --> 00:10:07,120 However, not everyone is embracing the dating phase. 195 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:08,760 Just really didn't feel comfortable, 196 00:10:08,800 --> 00:10:12,440 especially when they went on top of each other. I was like... 197 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:14,560 With the intimacy side of things, 198 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:17,240 I've struggled to come out of my comfort zone. 199 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:21,480 I'm more, um, reserved, 200 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:24,840 um, and more of an anxious person. 201 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:26,800 Dating, it's not for me. 202 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:40,080 I'm going to take this off, I'm hot. 203 00:10:40,120 --> 00:10:41,600 It's hot, hot, hot. 204 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:44,880 It's the dating phase on Virgin Island. 205 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:46,560 Went on this first date with this guy 206 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:47,640 and then he was like, 207 00:10:47,680 --> 00:10:49,760 "I'm going to kiss you and then make out with you". 208 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:51,960 And then he kept biting me. Did you say "make out with you"? 209 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:54,480 Yeah, well, he went like this. He was like... 210 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:55,600 Ugh, yeah. 211 00:10:55,640 --> 00:11:00,400 And past experiences have left a mark on many in the group. 212 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:03,400 So before I came out, I went on a date with someone 213 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:05,560 and he said, "Oh, let's go for a walk". 214 00:11:05,600 --> 00:11:09,640 But we were wandering around, like, the same area for ages. 215 00:11:09,680 --> 00:11:12,240 It was getting darker and darker. Oh, my God. 216 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:13,960 And he like cuddled into me and was like, 217 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:15,560 "Oh, we might have to stay here all night." 218 00:11:15,600 --> 00:11:19,200 And I was like, "I'm not camping here, mate!" 219 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:21,640 And in the end, we managed to, like, ring the police 220 00:11:21,680 --> 00:11:23,240 to come and, like, pick us up. 221 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:25,520 That is a dating disaster. Yeah! 222 00:11:25,560 --> 00:11:28,120 My dating horror story was my fault. 223 00:11:28,160 --> 00:11:29,520 I brought Lego onto a date. 224 00:11:29,560 --> 00:11:31,440 I'm sort of chatting occasionally, 225 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:34,280 but I'm, like, reading the manual, arranging the pieces. 226 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:37,440 But it's only like a small... Beware of the Lego man! 227 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:43,800 To help them build more successful relationships... 228 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:46,120 Something's been put up on the noticeboard. Has anyone read it? 229 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:49,240 ...Some are starting the retreat's most advanced therapy - 230 00:11:49,280 --> 00:11:51,000 working with a surrogate partner. 231 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:53,440 Oh, Cal's ready for his surrogate partner. 232 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:54,520 Cool. 233 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:59,400 I don't feel a hug as much as I probably should do. 234 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:01,400 Callum is opening up to Kat... 235 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:02,680 My dad, you know, 236 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:03,840 whenever I saw him, I'd hug him, 237 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:06,320 so it brings back some memories of that. 238 00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:08,680 ...to move past his issues around grief. 239 00:12:08,720 --> 00:12:11,800 We'll hug and we're going to stay here for just a minute, 240 00:12:11,840 --> 00:12:15,160 and I want you to really slow down and feel your feet on the ground. 241 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:17,640 As far as like, position, 242 00:12:17,680 --> 00:12:21,280 do you enjoy being on top of someone? 243 00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:23,000 Do you like mixing it up? 244 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:26,560 Meanwhile, Marianne is overcoming her mistrust of men... 245 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:27,760 I like just being on top, 246 00:12:27,800 --> 00:12:30,760 because then I can decide if I want to get off or not. Yeah. 247 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:33,080 ...with surrogate partner Andre. 248 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:38,600 How does that feel? Very safe. 249 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:41,000 BERTIE: Thank you very much. 250 00:12:41,040 --> 00:12:43,680 Oh, there we go. Much better. Yeah. 251 00:12:43,720 --> 00:12:47,480 And Bertie begins the surrogate partner programme... 252 00:12:47,520 --> 00:12:49,240 Does it feel better to touch back? 253 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:50,280 Yeah. 254 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:53,760 ...trying to relax more with touch. 255 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:55,960 I feel a bit awkward, but I'm OK here. 256 00:12:56,000 --> 00:12:58,600 Yeah. Just think about what's comfortable. Yeah. 257 00:12:58,640 --> 00:13:01,760 I do feel like I'm making progress. 258 00:13:01,800 --> 00:13:05,360 It's good to have kind of a beginner's session with it. 259 00:13:05,400 --> 00:13:06,400 And it went well. 260 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:11,840 As the sessions gain momentum, the experts turn their attention 261 00:13:11,880 --> 00:13:15,320 to Alex's confident display in the workshop earlier. 262 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:18,520 Alex and Marianne today, how hot was that? 263 00:13:18,560 --> 00:13:20,000 It was so sexy! 264 00:13:21,320 --> 00:13:24,160 I was so proud of them. He took it to the next level. 265 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:26,200 Some good butt squeezes in there as well. 266 00:13:26,240 --> 00:13:29,360 It's all in there. He just has to learn to trust himself. 267 00:13:29,400 --> 00:13:32,600 But there's still one obstacle holding Alex back. 268 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:34,040 Hello. Hello. 269 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:38,680 And Ilil has a plan to help with his erection issues. 270 00:13:38,720 --> 00:13:43,360 We had an idea to continue with the pleasure mapping, 271 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:49,440 but have it more about building trajectory around... penetration. 272 00:13:49,480 --> 00:13:52,120 Yeah. Does that feel...? Yeah. Yeah. 273 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:56,040 But there is that sort of gnawing, niggling feeling 274 00:13:56,080 --> 00:13:59,280 at the back of the head that being like a... 275 00:14:00,480 --> 00:14:02,320 Yeah, I'm nervous that I'll lose it again. 276 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:06,680 The biggest fear is me not being able to experience sex. 277 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:08,520 I've built up sex as such an important thing 278 00:14:08,560 --> 00:14:12,560 that I can maybe take away the power from it that it has over me. 279 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:14,640 I'm really willing to do what it takes 280 00:14:14,680 --> 00:14:16,640 and whatever I need to do to change. 281 00:14:17,880 --> 00:14:21,440 So we're going to bring this. Amazing. 282 00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:23,560 And you can take your clothes off like last time. 283 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:24,640 Cool, cool, cool. 284 00:14:30,320 --> 00:14:32,360 My hands are going to be a little bit cold... 285 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:34,680 That's OK. ..to start with. 286 00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:39,360 So inhale, your belly rise... 287 00:14:40,680 --> 00:14:44,320 Exhale, letting all the muscles of your pelvic floor relax. 288 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:47,840 Ahh. 289 00:14:51,120 --> 00:14:52,160 Before long... 290 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:53,800 Good. 291 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:56,720 ...Ilil feels she can escalate. 292 00:14:56,760 --> 00:14:59,680 How would it feel to take your underwear off, 293 00:14:59,720 --> 00:15:02,240 just so I can see what I'm touching? Yeah. I think that'd be good. 294 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:03,320 OK. 295 00:15:07,520 --> 00:15:08,840 It's all good. 296 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:13,760 I want you directing me. Yeah. OK? 297 00:15:15,880 --> 00:15:19,000 So yeah, onto the penis like that, yeah. 298 00:15:19,040 --> 00:15:20,080 OK. 299 00:15:21,280 --> 00:15:24,080 It's like you could almost just stay at the top right there. 300 00:15:24,120 --> 00:15:25,520 Amazing. 301 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:31,880 Do you want to look and see how hard you are? 302 00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:33,520 I wasn't expecting to be that hard. 303 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:35,920 Look at that. 304 00:15:39,320 --> 00:15:42,280 Do you want to try to put a condom on? 305 00:15:42,320 --> 00:15:43,360 Yeah, sure. 306 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:46,240 For Alex, keeping an erection 307 00:15:46,280 --> 00:15:49,280 whilst putting on a condom is the ultimate challenge. 308 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:55,480 Amazing. 309 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:59,720 We can also try to change position 310 00:15:59,760 --> 00:16:02,160 because for penetration, 311 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:04,480 you might have to move around a little bit. 312 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:07,600 Yeah. On the vagina. 313 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:11,080 Amazing. 314 00:16:12,920 --> 00:16:14,680 It's OK, you haven't lost your erection. 315 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:16,000 So good. 316 00:16:18,600 --> 00:16:21,800 Good, I want you to just let this experience 317 00:16:21,840 --> 00:16:24,240 sink into your long-term memory. 318 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:29,440 Wow. Yeah. 319 00:16:32,160 --> 00:16:35,680 I feel good, I feel confident, I feel glowing. 320 00:16:35,720 --> 00:16:37,720 Thank you so much. You're so welcome! 321 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:40,280 Oh, my gosh, it's massive. 322 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:43,200 Yeah. Really, really massive, yeah. 323 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:48,760 Bye. Bye. 324 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:50,600 SHE CELEBRATES SILENTLY 325 00:16:50,640 --> 00:16:54,560 Alex did so well in the session, 326 00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:59,120 learning how to focus on sensations and pleasure 327 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:02,720 rather than being in the head, worried. 328 00:17:02,760 --> 00:17:05,440 And he kept his erection throughout. 329 00:17:05,480 --> 00:17:08,920 I feel like my work with Alex is complete for now, 330 00:17:08,960 --> 00:17:11,600 and I feel like he's ready to move on. 331 00:17:12,800 --> 00:17:16,280 I feel amazing. I feel all the worries I had before coming here 332 00:17:16,320 --> 00:17:20,120 and before with previous partners have just been lifted. 333 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:23,160 Hello! That was my last session with the Ilil. 334 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:26,480 I've, like, completed it. No, you haven't completed it, mate. 335 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:30,000 Yeah, not in that sort of... No, I know. But seriously? 336 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:31,640 Yeah, yeah. What did you do? 337 00:17:31,680 --> 00:17:33,840 Do you want...? Quite... like, a lot. 338 00:17:33,880 --> 00:17:35,800 Clearly, if you've completed it. 339 00:17:35,840 --> 00:17:36,880 Yeah. 340 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:43,160 Sun cream. Do you want some? Oh, no! Why? 341 00:17:45,120 --> 00:17:47,760 It's afternoon on Virgin Island. 342 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:50,280 What's everyone's type, then? 343 00:17:50,320 --> 00:17:52,880 I like gingers, I like light hair. 344 00:17:52,920 --> 00:17:55,400 Give me every single celebrity male - yum. 345 00:17:55,440 --> 00:17:57,480 I like them all. You like them all? 346 00:17:57,520 --> 00:17:59,160 How are you still a virgin, bless you? 347 00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:01,160 LAUGHTER 348 00:18:03,120 --> 00:18:05,880 To help the group gain confidence in dating... 349 00:18:05,920 --> 00:18:08,040 Hello! Hey! Hey! 350 00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:11,280 ...the experts have a new exercise. 351 00:18:11,320 --> 00:18:12,640 How's everyone doing? 352 00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:18,760 Today's challenge is setting up your own dating app profile. 353 00:18:18,800 --> 00:18:20,120 You're going to be put into pairs, 354 00:18:20,160 --> 00:18:21,840 and you're going to support each other 355 00:18:21,880 --> 00:18:23,360 to write a bio, 356 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:26,480 to answer some prompts, and taking photographs. 357 00:18:29,560 --> 00:18:32,920 It's, like, the worst thing that they could ever ask me to do. 358 00:18:32,960 --> 00:18:35,160 I just hate dating apps. 359 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:36,920 I just want someone to like me for me 360 00:18:36,960 --> 00:18:39,160 without me having to, like... 361 00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:41,680 ...sell myself. 362 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:45,000 You might be surprised by what comes out of it. 363 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:47,080 Also, like, "These are my strengths. 364 00:18:47,120 --> 00:18:48,880 "This is what I'm really good at." 365 00:18:48,920 --> 00:18:50,720 How would that feel? Yeah. 366 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:53,200 I'll try. 367 00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:59,200 Ellen, you'll be good. Don't worry. You got this. 368 00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:01,040 Writing a dating profile can help with self-esteem, 369 00:19:01,080 --> 00:19:04,200 because putting it out there is a brave, courageous step 370 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:06,320 that they need to learn how to do. 371 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:11,960 How would you want to pose? I don't know! 372 00:19:13,360 --> 00:19:15,880 Jazz hands? Let's do it. 373 00:19:15,920 --> 00:19:18,280 The way that they support each other is really key. 374 00:19:18,320 --> 00:19:19,640 Giving each other feedback 375 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:22,720 will help them feel much better about putting themselves out there. 376 00:19:22,760 --> 00:19:23,960 If I was a character in a book, 377 00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:27,960 I'd be described as a ball of energy with a bit of yoghurt on the top! 378 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:30,640 I love it, I love it. That doesn't even make any sense. 379 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:34,000 It's perfect. Yeah, it's great, isn't it? Yeah. 380 00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:37,040 Passion of mine - it's like, do I say gaming? 381 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,200 That's what I'm thinking. Do I say gaming? 382 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:41,560 Do I lie or do I tell the truth? 383 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:43,920 First date for me looks like...? 384 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:46,640 For me, anything involving food. 385 00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:49,320 Perfect. You could always say, like, good food... 386 00:19:49,360 --> 00:19:53,200 Good food and great conversation. You make everything so simple! 387 00:19:53,240 --> 00:19:54,960 SHE LAUGHS 388 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:58,880 While some are comfortable writing positive things about themselves... 389 00:19:58,920 --> 00:20:01,080 I'm just, I've still got quite a lot to get through. 390 00:20:01,120 --> 00:20:03,080 Yeah, that's fine, no rush. 391 00:20:03,120 --> 00:20:04,400 ...others are not. 392 00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:06,320 I do think some people will struggle. 393 00:20:06,360 --> 00:20:08,720 People have been taught not to brag, I guess, 394 00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:12,760 and I don't think that'll be any different in this group. 395 00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:16,240 I've just put, like, "I don't really like to sell myself." 396 00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:19,360 And I've tried, you know, um, 397 00:20:19,400 --> 00:20:21,640 trying to, like, be someone that I'm not. 398 00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:25,160 Though Ellen is reluctant... 399 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:28,840 I must admit, I am kind of really pleased with how this is going. 400 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:30,000 ...Will is all in. 401 00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:31,800 What profile have you gone for? 402 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:37,720 I put, "(...bro, I'm a forever alone virgin. What the heck?)" 403 00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:39,480 Aw. Thank you. 404 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:41,160 THEY LAUGH 405 00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:45,360 But his apparent confidence hides a deeper anxiety. 406 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:47,520 You get to your early thirties still being a virgin, 407 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:51,520 you've got no woman in your life. It's... it's lonely. 408 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:52,600 Really lonely. 409 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:56,200 The few times that I received anything sexual, 410 00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:59,600 I was in college. But I would, like, come really quick. 411 00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:01,480 That knocked my confidence a lot. 412 00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:03,840 My fear of, like, premature ejaculation 413 00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:05,440 has definitely scarred me. 414 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:12,040 Will came up for making consent sexy, 415 00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:16,000 but he really struggled with that. He relies on humour a lot. Yeah. 416 00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:20,560 Now it's time to take his desire seriously and teach him skills. 417 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:25,720 Hello. Hello, hello! 418 00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:32,640 So, share with me everything that's happening inside. 419 00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:34,760 It's like a little bit of excitement in my tummy. 420 00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:39,120 Mm-hm. And a little bit in your eyes. That might just be my glasses. 421 00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:42,480 No! So I think, like, because you don't know exactly 422 00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:46,040 how to navigate that space, you use silliness for it. 423 00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:47,720 It's not something I do deliberately. 424 00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:51,680 Yeah. OK. But let's check what silliness does to the connection. 425 00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:56,960 Danielle wants to teach Will how to build a genuine connection. 426 00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,040 Would you be happy if I moved you closer, or just me move closer? 427 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:01,720 So let yourself actually check. 428 00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:03,720 What do you want to do? 429 00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:06,600 Whoa! That's fast for a first date. 430 00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:08,560 We're slowing it down. 431 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:09,640 I'm sitting on you. 432 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:12,240 You're letting yourself feel it in your body. 433 00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:15,040 Yeah. Because it's about us connecting. 434 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:16,120 Mmm. 435 00:22:23,200 --> 00:22:25,920 Do you feel the intensity? Yeah. 436 00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:28,960 That's where you want to stay. You don't want to break intensity. 437 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:33,160 After taking time to connect... 438 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:34,440 If I kiss you on your neck? 439 00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:36,880 ...Danielle is happy for Will to escalate. 440 00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:37,960 Ah! 441 00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:44,920 Ah! 442 00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:50,960 Mmm. 443 00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:53,600 How did that feel? Yeah, good. 444 00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:55,400 By slowing the pace, 445 00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:58,080 Will finally connects with his emotions. 446 00:22:58,120 --> 00:23:02,760 This is the most intimacy I've had in longer than I can remember. 447 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:06,560 Yeah. Yeah. So there's some sadness that comes? 448 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:08,600 A great deal, great deal, don't get me wrong. Yeah. 449 00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:12,920 It makes me feel more connected to you when I actually see who you are, 450 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,360 not just, like, the presented self. 451 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:16,440 You know? 452 00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:22,320 Speaking about how I feel really just makes it more real to me. 453 00:23:22,360 --> 00:23:26,080 I've spent many years getting rather good 454 00:23:26,120 --> 00:23:29,360 at hiding how upset I actually feel. 455 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:30,440 Um... 456 00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:34,040 I've not been able to, like, 457 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:36,040 express myself like that with someone before. 458 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:37,400 It feels good. 459 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,560 As Will opens up about his true feelings... 460 00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:45,120 You need to relax. 461 00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:49,720 Happy now? Yeah. 462 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:51,000 SHE LAUGHS 463 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:54,120 ...another connection on the island begins to spark. 464 00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:55,280 I like the nails. 465 00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:57,960 You like the nails? Mm-hm. 466 00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:59,000 SHE GIGGLES 467 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:04,080 What? I like the feeling of arm hair. Do my leg if you want. 468 00:24:04,120 --> 00:24:06,560 Your leg? Yeah. That's got leg hair. 469 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:09,240 I like it. 470 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:13,480 I think I could plait this. You could have just one long plait. 471 00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:15,200 What? Have you heard this? 472 00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:17,840 She wants to plait my leg hair. Yeah. 473 00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:19,160 LAUGHTER 474 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:20,960 Do you think anyone's going to develop any crushes? 475 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:22,040 Yeah. 476 00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:28,240 Really? Exactly. 477 00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:29,320 Thanks, though. 478 00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:32,080 Thank you. 479 00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:44,880 Hey, guys. Good morning. Morning. 480 00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:47,200 Brekkie. All right, you coming? Yeah. 481 00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:50,400 It's the start of a new day on Virgin Island... 482 00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,840 Good morning. Good morning, love. 483 00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,480 ...and the dating phase is in full swing. 484 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:58,000 Imagine this a dating app conversation. Mm-hm. 485 00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:00,920 So my first line would be, "What's your opinion on dried fruits?" 486 00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:03,400 Dried fruits? Dried fruits. 487 00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:06,120 Yeah, that's not great. What about dates? 488 00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:07,600 That's good. 489 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:09,240 Yeah, boom! 490 00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:11,200 It's very bad, but it's good. 491 00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:14,080 I know I've got, like, a lot to learn, a lot to catch up on, 492 00:25:14,120 --> 00:25:15,800 but it's a new day. 493 00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:18,400 One foot in front of the other and keep going forward. 494 00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:21,280 Because I'm so crap at making conversation, 495 00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:23,640 I feel a bit negative about the whole dating thing. 496 00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:26,000 This is a really hard phase for me, dating. 497 00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:29,040 I've tried it in the past and it just hasn't worked for me. 498 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:31,600 I've been on a few first dates and they've never progressed past 499 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:34,160 that stage, so I'm doing something wrong, clearly. 500 00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:38,160 I struggle to know how to date and how to flirt. 501 00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:42,120 I don't allow myself to want to look at women that I fancy. 502 00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:44,280 It's something I need to learn to do, I guess, 503 00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:46,200 if I want to pursue a relationship. 504 00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,920 I went on this date with a guy that took me to KFC. 505 00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:52,040 Oh...! We went on a walk, we went on like a long nice walk. 506 00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:54,040 That's a dream date for me, that is. 507 00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:00,160 GONG BONGS 508 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:03,200 This morning, the group will learn what it takes... 509 00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:06,720 Here we go. ...to go on a successful date. 510 00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:10,320 Morning, guys. Hello, welcome. Welcome. 511 00:26:10,360 --> 00:26:12,720 It's just a completely different dating culture 512 00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:14,840 that the younger generation is facing. 513 00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:17,760 Social media, porn, also dating apps. 514 00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:21,760 All of these things can make it hard to feel confident and comfortable. 515 00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:24,480 And so we help them learn how to go out and get what they want 516 00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:26,600 for themselves in the dating world. 517 00:26:27,640 --> 00:26:30,560 So, we're continuing on with our dating phase. 518 00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:32,480 And tonight, drum roll... 519 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:33,880 MIMICS DRUM ROLL 520 00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:35,720 THEY LAUGH 521 00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,960 ...you have the chance to practice dating. 522 00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:42,720 Scary. 523 00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:45,400 Just the thought of, you know, being alone with a person 524 00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:47,440 that I like is another level of, 525 00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:49,160 like, nerve-racking. 526 00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:54,520 You feel a lot more pressure to look a certain way, 527 00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:56,920 be a certain person. 528 00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:59,640 It feels like a competition and you have 529 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,640 completely failed compared to everyone else. 530 00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:06,440 Today, we want to give you some skills for this first date, 531 00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:09,440 like running your erotic energy and flirting 532 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:11,720 while you're having a regular conversation. 533 00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:14,720 What are the four steps of a really good first date? 534 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,800 The four steps are getting to know you, 535 00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:21,400 giving an in-the-moment compliment, 536 00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:24,640 giving and recognising the look, 537 00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:26,840 and leaning into a kiss. 538 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:28,600 So we're going to demonstrate. 539 00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:32,920 I'm glad we finally were able to get together. 540 00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:34,760 Totally. You know, I was travelling. 541 00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:36,240 Where did you go? 542 00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:38,080 I was hot springing around. 543 00:27:38,120 --> 00:27:39,960 You know, I really love hot springs. 544 00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,000 I love hot springs, too. Mm. 545 00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:45,880 Mm... 546 00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:50,360 Sorry, I stopped being able to talk for a minute. 547 00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:52,520 Your eyes were so compelling. 548 00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:54,680 SHE LAUGHS 549 00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:56,000 Mm. 550 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:00,680 Are you ready? 551 00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:04,400 A long time ago. 552 00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:11,560 I hope you see that you can be connected to your erotic energy 553 00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,760 and talk about regular things. 554 00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:17,840 With Celeste and Danielle's dating demo over, 555 00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:21,000 it's time for the group to put it into practice. 556 00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:22,880 Who wants to go first? 557 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:30,760 I'll give it a go. Yeah? Yeah. 558 00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:33,240 You want to go with Will? 559 00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:35,400 Come on, then, Will. 560 00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:38,560 Will must resist hiding behind humour, 561 00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:42,000 but with Ellen scarred by dating, it won't be easy. 562 00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:47,880 Dating is really difficult. 563 00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:51,760 You chat to someone and you've not said anything bad, 564 00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:53,680 but then all of a sudden, they'll just disappear 565 00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:55,080 off the face of the earth. 566 00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,240 And I do take it personally. 567 00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:01,280 I've given up and I feel a bit lost. 568 00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:03,920 Yeah. 569 00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:05,760 How are you? Um, I'm good, yeah. 570 00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:07,920 How are you? Just a little nervous. 571 00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:15,160 So, um, what do you enjoy doing in your spare time? 572 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:17,680 I like writing and drawing and painting. 573 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:19,040 Cool. 574 00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:20,360 Self portraits? 575 00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:22,840 No, unfortunately, I'm terrible at portraits. 576 00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:25,600 You do have a lot of emotion in your eyes... Do I? 577 00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:27,480 Yeah, they really do glisten. 578 00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:29,200 Yeah. Thanks. 579 00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:31,640 No worries. You've got nice eyes too. 580 00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:33,280 Thank you. 581 00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:44,160 So I want you to notice that you both have the look. 582 00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:46,120 ELLEN: Do we? 583 00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:48,320 I'm still looking for it. It's just my face. 584 00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:52,960 Following Will and Ellen's lead... 585 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:55,280 You're actually late. Oh, uh... 586 00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:00,320 ...others dive in. 587 00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:03,200 How can I make it up to you? Maybe I could buy you a drink or something. 588 00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:05,920 Um, a sex on the beach. 589 00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:09,560 And what's your favourite drink? 590 00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:15,160 Some lean into compliments. 591 00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:17,040 You have such blue eyes. 592 00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:19,280 Thank you. You've got really nice earrings. 593 00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:22,800 Others seal the deal with a kiss. 594 00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:28,600 I think I'd like to do this again. 595 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:30,080 Oh, my God, I got goose bumps. 596 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:37,000 OK. Anyone else? 597 00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:40,680 I'd be willing to go up, if anyone wants to go. 598 00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:42,720 Joining Callum... 599 00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:44,320 I'll give it a go. 600 00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:48,720 ...is Tegan, who, despite her attraction to women... 601 00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:50,440 Hi. Hi. 602 00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:53,760 ...has favoured practising with men on the retreat. 603 00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:56,800 I'm so hung up on being a virgin. 604 00:30:56,840 --> 00:31:00,520 I struggle to talk to people who I fancy in general 605 00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:02,640 because I clam up and I get nervous. 606 00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:04,640 I forget how to talk like a human being 607 00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:06,320 and then they think I'm not interested. 608 00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,640 I want to be in a relationship. 609 00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:10,800 I want to settle down with someone. 610 00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:12,840 But I can't at this point. 611 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:17,880 So... what brings you here? 612 00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:19,840 You bring me here. Yeah. Mm. 613 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:21,760 Can I... I think we should hold hands. Of course you can. 614 00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,560 Yes, absolutely. 615 00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:29,320 SHE SPUTTERS This is where I get awkward. 616 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:31,520 You're doing great. Keep going. 617 00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:36,360 THEY LAUGH 618 00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:38,200 If you can hold his energy. 619 00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:41,120 This is going to be a feat to not burst into a fit of giggles. 620 00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:44,440 THEY GIGGLE 621 00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:47,880 That was so awkward. Yeah. 622 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:50,000 My mind just went blank. 623 00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:51,920 Katie, girl... Yeah, Katie! Woo! 624 00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:53,680 Should we talk about... 625 00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:55,320 This side of you, man! 626 00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:57,680 Are you sure you've never been on a date before? 627 00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:01,400 But while Katie is flying, 628 00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:04,440 Tegan has crashed back down to earth. 629 00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:07,320 Hey, munchkin. Hey. You good? 630 00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:08,640 Mm... I don't know. 631 00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:13,400 I really struggle on any sort of first date. 632 00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:17,200 It's awkward. I don't want people paying attention to me. 633 00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:20,000 I just didn't feel quite ready for that. 634 00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:23,000 I'm here for you, you know? I know, thank you. 635 00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:27,760 Tegan's reluctance to practice with women on the retreat 636 00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:29,640 hasn't gone unnoticed. 637 00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,520 She's been going up a lot with the guys. Yeah. 638 00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:36,080 Tegan's not pushing outside of that. 639 00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:38,720 Which is a really common experience for young queer women 640 00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:43,080 to feel like they might be a bad person for looking at a woman. 641 00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:45,800 This internalised homophobia, "I'm afraid of being a predator", 642 00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:47,360 all that kind of stuff. 643 00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:49,360 So we need to challenge that. 644 00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:53,680 If I fancy someone, I don't do anything about it. 645 00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:56,960 Part of me feels like looking at women is fundamentally wrong. 646 00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:59,960 When I was in school, any time we got changed after PE, 647 00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:02,520 I would go into the showers and lock myself in there. 648 00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:05,120 That's because I was obviously dealing with 649 00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:08,080 a lot of feelings regarding women. 650 00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:10,280 I didn't want to make them feel uncomfortable. 651 00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:12,200 Hello! Hello! 652 00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:16,200 I've personally got some shame around it. 653 00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:21,840 Surrogate partner therapist Risdon aims to help Tegan 654 00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:25,640 accept and embrace her physical desires. 655 00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:29,760 So today, we're going to do something called directed gazing. 656 00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:31,800 Mm-hm. So you're going to ogle me. OK. 657 00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:34,960 OK. How do you feel? 658 00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:38,160 Nervous. Um, yeah, very nervous about it. 659 00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:41,960 It's important for you to get used to female gays. 660 00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:43,840 Yeah. Let's stand up. 661 00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:48,360 So I just want you to start looking in my eyes. Mm-hm. 662 00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:51,840 Just breathe and see what comes up in your body, 663 00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:54,280 in your feelings. Mm-hm. 664 00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:56,160 Look at my mouth. 665 00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:02,400 Yep. I'm trying. 666 00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:04,880 It's like my head's telling me, like, no, red light. 667 00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:06,720 Like, look away. Mm. 668 00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:08,760 Want to give it a shot again? Yeah, let's give it a shot. 669 00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:13,480 And breathe out. 670 00:34:17,240 --> 00:34:19,040 What are you feeling right now? 671 00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:21,560 I'm feeling some things. 672 00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:24,080 Are you feeling desire? Yes. I can feel it. 673 00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:26,800 Yeah. I'm going to turn around and show you my butt. OK. 674 00:34:32,760 --> 00:34:34,240 What's that? 675 00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:35,800 It was good. It was... 676 00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:37,640 Yeah, I felt the desire. 677 00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:42,400 Tegan is progressing rapidly, so Risdon escalates. 678 00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:46,480 I think you're hot. Thank you. 679 00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:48,320 I think you're hot too. 680 00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:52,600 I want you to look at my breasts. 681 00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:57,000 And breathe. Yeah. Yep. Let it open up. 682 00:34:57,040 --> 00:34:59,120 You're doing so good. And let it out the mouth. 683 00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:01,280 Everything you're feeling is perfect. 684 00:35:02,720 --> 00:35:04,760 And when you're ready, look at my pussy. 685 00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:06,480 Mm-hm... OK. 686 00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:07,520 Mm-hm. 687 00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,440 You're doing really good. Thank you. 688 00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,760 You ready to look at my ass? Mm-hm. 689 00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:15,880 I got this. You got it? Yeah. 690 00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:19,200 I'm definitely a lesbian. 691 00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:22,520 Sorry. 692 00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:28,200 I'll see you soon. Yes. Yeah. Thank you. Bye. 693 00:35:28,240 --> 00:35:32,320 I feel like such a teenager, like a horny teenager right now. 694 00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:35,800 It was very erotic. I'm coming to accept that that's OK. That's good. 695 00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:41,000 Happy? Yum-yum-yum! Happy? I'm very happy. 696 00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:43,880 What'd you get up to? I had my boobs out. 697 00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:45,320 Ah! 698 00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:47,880 We looked at each other. Like, I looked at her breasts. 699 00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:51,080 Very nice breasts, by the way. And, yeah, 700 00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:53,880 I think that's the best I've ever felt. Oh! 701 00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:56,240 I'm not losing the smile for the rest of the day. 702 00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:01,640 It's late afternoon on Virgin Island. 703 00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,960 A lot comes with a date. It's not just 704 00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:06,840 "hi, how are you? Blah-blah-blah" There's a lot to it. 705 00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:10,200 With the practice dates coming up, romance is in the air. 706 00:36:10,240 --> 00:36:11,720 I don't ask people out. 707 00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:14,800 I've never been asked out. You should ask people out. 708 00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:17,240 No, cos I'm actually scared of rejection, thanks. 709 00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:20,160 Ask me out right now. 710 00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:23,560 No, cos I know the answer already. 711 00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:25,520 Well, if you don't ask, you never know. 712 00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:30,000 Will you got a date with me? Yes. Oh. 713 00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:32,960 THEY LAUGH 714 00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:35,320 Where should we go? Uh... 715 00:36:35,360 --> 00:36:37,480 You'd have to take a boat to get to where we want to go. 716 00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:40,400 It's kind of like a campsite. Oh. Yeah. 717 00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:44,120 There's a bed on the shore. Sounds quite yummy. 718 00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:45,720 THEY LAUGH 719 00:36:57,200 --> 00:37:00,400 Whey. Nice photo, Bertie. That's such a good photo, Bertie. 720 00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:02,920 It's day two of the dating phase. 721 00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:05,040 Some answers are more light-hearted than others. 722 00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:09,000 I'm a kind and caring person who loves enjoying the company of... Oh! 723 00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:10,680 Aw, Bertie. 724 00:37:10,720 --> 00:37:15,080 And the group are reading each other's dating app profiles. 725 00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:17,120 "I love music, pink and men." 726 00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:19,040 THEY LAUGH 727 00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:21,160 Who's that one? That's Katie. Oh, right, OK. 728 00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:23,600 "My turn-on is men who smell good, 729 00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:25,360 "nice hands and slow tickles. 730 00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:29,320 "The relationship scale I get an A-plus in is cuddles." 731 00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:30,400 You are all very good. 732 00:37:30,440 --> 00:37:32,080 I would swipe right on all of you. 733 00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:38,000 But for one person, the exercise has touched a raw nerve. 734 00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,320 Ellen, how did the dating app stuff go? 735 00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:43,760 I hated it. I feel like even when I've put 736 00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,240 what I thought were my best photos 737 00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:50,160 or whatever, or I've written a thing about me, 738 00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,840 it's not worked, and I'm just done with them. 739 00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:58,680 Dating makes her really nervous. She doesn't like the apps. 740 00:37:58,720 --> 00:38:00,560 She's very uncertain on what to do. 741 00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:03,680 Yeah, Ellen was very stressed that like, 742 00:38:03,720 --> 00:38:05,920 "this is the worst thing you could ask me to do." 743 00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:09,720 When I have gone on dates and things, 744 00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:16,080 it's been really hard, because I... 745 00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:19,040 I'm scared of being intimate with someone. 746 00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,760 I find trusting people quite hard. 747 00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:28,120 So when we've got to the intimacy side of things, 748 00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:30,920 I've sort of pulled back a lot. 749 00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:35,280 Surrogate partner therapist Kat 750 00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:37,880 hopes to nurture a connection with Ellen. 751 00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:40,880 Hello. Hello. How are you doing? I'm OK. 752 00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:45,360 But first, she must feel safe enough to lower her defences. 753 00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:49,320 My suggestion today is to do a game called May I Will You. 754 00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:53,360 So, like, "May I rub your feet? Will you rub my feet?" 755 00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:56,000 And everything is always for the asker. 756 00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:57,760 Does that feel OK? Yeah. 757 00:38:57,800 --> 00:38:59,280 The exercise should 758 00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:02,200 build trust between Ellen and Kat. 759 00:39:02,240 --> 00:39:06,400 OK. May I kiss your neck? 760 00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:07,440 Yes. 761 00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:19,080 Yeah. I just feel, like, a bit anxious. 762 00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:20,160 Yeah. 763 00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:28,520 I just found dating hard. Like, I just... 764 00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:32,600 Yeah. I just don't feel like I'm, like, good enough. 765 00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:34,440 I mean, you're definitely good enough. 766 00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:37,000 And you definitely deserve love, 767 00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:40,160 and are worthy of love and pleasure. 768 00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:41,680 OK. Yeah? Yeah. 769 00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:45,640 After a false start, they begin again. 770 00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:53,920 May I nuzzle your whole body over your clothes? 771 00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:57,000 Um... Yeah. OK. 772 00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:06,120 And is it OK if breasts are included? 773 00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:10,240 Yeah. I really... That's something that is one of my turn-offs. 774 00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:23,840 Does that feel OK? Yeah. Do you have magic powers? 775 00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:24,920 I feel safe. 776 00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:32,200 I really liked it when your chest was, 777 00:40:32,240 --> 00:40:34,480 like, on... on me. 778 00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:36,040 Like, yeah, 779 00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:37,960 I was kind of like a bit turned on. 780 00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:39,360 Well, a lot turned on. 781 00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:44,200 Can I touch your chest? OK. 782 00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:49,200 Is that OK, like, me doing that? 783 00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:52,680 The exercise 784 00:40:52,720 --> 00:40:56,120 is helping Ellen embrace desire for the first time. 785 00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:57,160 I also want to kiss you, 786 00:40:57,200 --> 00:41:00,160 but I think it's a bit too much to start with. 787 00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:03,040 You think it's too much for you? For me? 788 00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:04,120 Like, for you. 789 00:41:05,400 --> 00:41:06,600 It feels OK for me. 790 00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:10,960 Just relax. 791 00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:26,760 Thank you. Yes. See you soon. Thank you very much. OK. 792 00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:33,840 I was kind of, like, getting a bit, like, aroused. 793 00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:36,800 And I've not had that excitement before, 794 00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:38,920 but that's what I want. 795 00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:40,240 Vaginas and boobs. 796 00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:49,280 Hi. How was your one on one? It was dreamy. 797 00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:51,680 It was, like, so nice. And, yeah, 798 00:41:51,720 --> 00:41:54,440 I had to go and check that my knickers were still OK. 799 00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:56,040 THEY LAUGH 800 00:41:57,920 --> 00:42:01,080 Yeah. I feel on top of the world right now. 801 00:42:01,120 --> 00:42:02,960 On top of Virgin Island. Yeah! 802 00:42:03,000 --> 00:42:04,800 OTHERS APPLAUD 803 00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:12,320 It's early evening, 804 00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:15,760 and before the dating phase of the course concludes, 805 00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:18,160 the group must face their fears head-on... 806 00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:22,160 Hello. How are you doing? I'm good. I'm glad it's you. 807 00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:23,880 Oh! I'm glad it's you. 808 00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:25,640 ...with practice dates. 809 00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:27,560 You're not going to grab the seat? Oh, sorry. Yeah. 810 00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:29,800 Hang on, hang on. Oh! 811 00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:31,600 I've fallen for you already. 812 00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:33,240 THEY LAUGH 813 00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:35,280 Please take a seat. Thank you. 814 00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:36,960 Wow, this looks so nice. 815 00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:40,000 Shall we crack the bubbly? I would love that. 816 00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:41,600 Cheers. Cheers. 817 00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:45,200 So, how did you, um... 818 00:42:45,240 --> 00:42:47,800 I love it when you kind of look in my eyes while we're doing it. 819 00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:50,560 I can't help it. They're very addictive. 820 00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:51,640 Yours are too. 821 00:42:56,720 --> 00:42:58,640 Thank you. No problem. 822 00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:00,320 HE LAUGHS 823 00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:04,040 The phase has given Alex a newly-found confidence... 824 00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:06,560 You got a bit of fluff. Oh, there we go. 825 00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:07,640 Make a wish. 826 00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:11,240 There you go. 827 00:43:12,720 --> 00:43:14,400 I'm just going to have an olive. 828 00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:18,040 ...and taught Tegan how to be more comfortable in her skin. 829 00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:19,840 Have you heard the olive theory? 830 00:43:19,880 --> 00:43:22,400 The perfect couple, 831 00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:25,280 one person loves olives, the other hates them. 832 00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:27,320 Oh! So I hate olives. 833 00:43:27,360 --> 00:43:31,080 Know what that means, don't you? We're a perfect match. 834 00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:32,680 Stop it, Tegan. 835 00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:36,960 Even Ellen's more relaxed than ever. 836 00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:39,040 How would you feel if I... 837 00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:40,800 You want to feed me, don't you? Yeah, yeah. 838 00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:43,480 I want to feed you a strawberry. Erm... Yeah? 839 00:43:45,920 --> 00:43:47,480 Beautiful. You did it! Yay! 840 00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:52,080 But for Callum and Katie... 841 00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:53,840 I'm so nervous still. 842 00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:55,760 That's not good. Why? 843 00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:58,800 I think it's cos it's you. Why are you nervous around me? 844 00:43:58,840 --> 00:43:59,960 I don't know. 845 00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:02,760 The date appears to have moved beyond practice. 846 00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:04,320 Um... 847 00:44:04,360 --> 00:44:05,400 Wow. 848 00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:07,760 THEY LAUGH 849 00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:12,680 Oh, my God, what do we do? You have to stare into my eyes. 850 00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:16,280 SHE GIGGLES 851 00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:20,120 Without giggling. Callum, you make me giddy. 852 00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:21,200 Compose. 853 00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:25,320 We're very zen right now. Mm-hm. 854 00:44:29,240 --> 00:44:30,280 Got a bug on you. 855 00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:39,920 That feels nice. I'm a good masseuse. 856 00:44:39,960 --> 00:44:41,440 I wouldn't call it that. 857 00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:42,560 Like... 858 00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:45,520 No, that's even more! I'm trying my best! 859 00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:48,080 I had a really good time. 860 00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:51,120 I think she enjoyed it as well, cos we are both very giggly. 861 00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:52,680 I was really nervous, 862 00:44:52,720 --> 00:44:54,280 cos I've never been on a date before, 863 00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:56,920 so this was my first one. 864 00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:59,360 But Callum was a good person to go on a date with. 865 00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:01,520 I feel like the past few days, like, it's all just adding 866 00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:03,360 up and I've come out like with a new, like... 867 00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:05,040 I feel like I've just been really happy. 868 00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:08,040 I would definitely go on a date with Callum again. 869 00:45:11,360 --> 00:45:14,400 As the sun goes down on the dating phase... 870 00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:16,520 Prosecco. Oh, yes, please! OK. 871 00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:18,600 ...it's time to celebrate. 872 00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:20,320 Let's raise a glass. 873 00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:23,320 This is the end of the dating phase. 874 00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:26,360 And I want you to take a look at yourselves, 875 00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:32,400 because you've done so well and we are so proud of you. 876 00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:33,600 Chin-chin. 877 00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:35,480 All in all, I had a really good time. 878 00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:38,320 We learnt some really good techniques and I feel confident. 879 00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:39,840 Phase three! 880 00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:41,600 THEY CHEER 881 00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:43,560 There's so many little tricks and skills I've picked 882 00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,920 up that I definitely think I've seen progression. 883 00:45:45,960 --> 00:45:47,080 Cheers. Cheers. 884 00:45:47,120 --> 00:45:49,920 I feel a bit more confident about dating. 885 00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:53,600 However, I'm a bit nervous about what's to come. 886 00:45:53,640 --> 00:45:56,840 If you thought the first three phases were hot... 887 00:45:56,880 --> 00:45:58,440 LAUGHTER 888 00:45:59,720 --> 00:46:02,920 ...just wait to see what's coming next. Woo! 889 00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:07,760 Next time... 890 00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:09,120 You only live once. Woo! 891 00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:12,520 The most revealing phase yet. 892 00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:14,480 I love your body. 893 00:46:14,520 --> 00:46:16,480 And the one-on-ones... 894 00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:18,880 How does that feel? Sad. 895 00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:22,080 ...challenge the virgins to go even further. 896 00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:24,640 Put the finger on the bottom of the hole. 897 00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:25,840 Mm-hm. 898 00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:27,920 It's hot. THEY GIGGLE